Let's talk about the art of "going with the flow."
I was recently given a book titled, "DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF... and it's all small stuff" written by Richard Carlson, an American author & psychotherapist. In this particular book, he wrote 100 short chapters on ways that we can avoid having the little things take over our life. Some of his suggestions include learning to live in the moment, doing one thing at a time, and cutting yourself some slack.
One chapter I took to the most was called "Transform Your Relationship To Your Problems." I THINK THIS IS VERY TRUE. As humans, it's only natural for us to think of failure & destruction when we think about the different kinds of problems we have to face. We tell ourselves that the more problems we experience, the harder it will be to accomplish what we want in life. However, I think it's important that we realize problems, big or small, are a natural part of living. Where we lack humbleness, obstacles rise. Where we lack hope, difficult situations take form. It's a never ending cycle that actually provides a balance in our life.
Since we now know that problems are inevitable, how can we go about achieving happiness? For starters, it doesn't come from getting rid of our problems. As a matter of fact, it comes from us being able to see our problems as an opportunity to WAKE UP & LEARN.
A lot of the times the problems we have simply come from us creating struggles that make our life different from what they actually are. A flat tire, spilled coffee, or a cavity suddenly gets blown out of proportion & we make it out to be a life-or-death situation. So unnecessary! And stressful to say the least. We have to remember that with pleasure comes pain. With success comes failure. With joy comes sorrow. They balance each other out & we need both to know what's real & what's not.
So what's the point here?
Everyone struggles. You hear stories of people being raised in horrible places but then go on to being the most successful person in their family. Or drug addicts & alcoholics that go on to save millions of peoples lives by living to tell how they overcame their struggles. You can't change the past. So stop looking back there. It's not important anymore. What IS important is how you handle what's ahead of you. Problems will come & go. Would it help if you saw what was coming? Would it change anything if we knew what to do before anything happened? Of course not. There's no way to know. You just have to go with the flow.